“nature held me close and seemed to find no fault with me.”
— leslie feinberg, stone butch blues (1993)

“i tell you / someone will remember us / in the future.”
— sappho (6th century, bce)

“i think there is nothing more tough than tenderness. because all the strength in the world is really not worth much if you can't find the tenderness in there.”
— gender troubles: the butches (2017)

big butch dyke

dominic artair james. non-binary stone butch lesbian. he/they. 22. white, tme, canadian. autistic. adhd.
i never shut up
my femme — ♡ @honeyrosefemme. ♡

basics;
please note that i use cannabis and psilocybin regularly and will talk about them, and they are important medicines for me, so if that bothers you, you may not want to follow me!
♡
for tf related folks i do enjoy megatron in mtmte/lost light and i enjoy his arc as well as megarod, so keep that in mind.

if you're bigoted, i assume you wouldn't give a shit about me telling you not to interact or follow.
that said, me and any blog i run is pro-Black and pro-Indigenous, and supportive of trans women and sex workers.

do not follow OR interact if—
you do not unequivocally support BLM and put your money & energy where your mouth is;
you're under 18;
you're a wiccan or otherwise appropriate closed cultural practices;
you invalidate lesbians who use he/him or they/them pronouns, non-binary lesbians, and gnc lesbians;
you believe in and support "bi/pan lesbians";
you believe ppl who aren't lesbians can reclaim "dyke";
you invalidate non-binary identities;
you are truscum / a transmedicalist;
you are a/support non-trauma based multiple "systems";
you use "sysmed" sincerely;
you are a terf, radfem, "gender critical";
you are a swerf;
you are an antisemite;
you are a cishet man

if you're curious or want me to expand on my stances send me a message. non-anonymous. thx

some specifics;
i do not get involved in aro/ace inclusion/exclusion discourse. i've been on tumblr for almost ten years.

i do not get involved in who can use what words, generally, because i have other things to be doing, and other actual material causes to be supporting (SPECIFICALLY with regards to the lesbian community, i'm not speaking for any other appropriation).

i will always value and center lesbians, lesbians of colour, Black lesbians, studs, stems, and sapphic experiences.

do not call me q---r. do not call me "allosexual". do not call me "monosexual". i am a lesbian!

i personally reclaim the d slur and don't tend to tag it in my personal posts.

if you want to know my opinion on [insert topic] i would love to chat, but i won't do it with anons. send me a DM or a public ask!

i block liberally. sorry

if you send me an ask and you'd like it to be private, either mark it with an * or put (the question in parentheses).

games;
dragon age. mass effect. the sims. tomb raider. the witcher. stardew valley. untitled goose game. flight rising. dishonored. banished. pillars of eternity. tyranny. shadowrun. the long dark. slime rancher. guild wars 2. mirror's edge. afk arena. graveyard keeper. dappervolk.

shows / movies;
star trek (tos, tng, voy, aos). brooklyn nine-nine. grace and frankie. that 70s show. derry girls. avatar & korra. buzzfeed unsolved. dear white people. the last witch hunter. the good place. it. she-ra. bbc musketeers. bright. black mirror. lego elves. schitt's creek. wynonna earp. vikings.

books;
my original work. stone butch blues. iron cast. percy jackson. idw transformers. wayhaven chronicles. eve dallas 'in death' series. valdemar series. the night circus. starless sea. books of bayern. kingkiller chronicles. poetic & prose etta. crier's war.

music;
my chemical romance. mamamoo. lizzo. hozier. maggie rogers. shinedown. fob. of monsters and men. adam lambert. the fray. mikky ekko. mika. sleeping at last. delta rae. bishop briggs. barns courtney. hayley kiyoko. misterwives. the band camino. the cab.

general;
tarot. witchcraft. medieval history. making cyoa games. butch/femme culture. lesbian history. dungeons & dragons. collaborative fiction. cats. cockatiels. theatre.

media in italics are current or long-term special interests! i am always adding to this list because i have No Memory Whatsoever!!